Thing I learned this weekend...

[will_m [JU]]

Stuff in Garage, new locks on doors. Give her access to the garage but not the house. Take your stuff out of the garage and put it in the house.


Now repeat after me...."The bond of trust has been broken and it will never be repaired. We're done and I'm moving on."

Say that about 300 times a day until you can stop yourself from saying that pansy crap you said to her last night. again.

Tough love...

Make sure ALL locks are changed and get the paperwork ready for her to leave the house completely to you.

Really, should we sticky this thread or what?

 

[Zr2Chad [JU]]

He's only 23.... way too young for this to be such a big deal. Relationships begin and end in an instant.

 

[Stormchaser [JU]]

I don't want the boy to be afraid to come here for help/advice but that might not be a bad idea. :lightbulb: Let's see what he says....

Okay. I just hope he stays on track and finds some new hotter chick that's bisexual

 

[ClownFish [JU]]

He's only 23.... way too young for this to be such a big deal. Relationships begin and end in an instant.

Not when she owns property with him...



Oh and when she said "he didn't mean anything"

When someone is cheating and says that to their SO, they should be shot.

They are basically saying "I screwed this other person that meant absolutely nothing to me just to either spite you or because I was horny and what we had was so meaningless I was willing to do this without a second thought."

If you are going to screw around on someone you are supposedly committed to, do it for love at least or break up first if you don't want the commitment.

 

[Zr2Chad [JU]]

Not when she owns property with him...



Oh and when she said "he didn't mean anything"

When someone is cheating and says that to their SO, they should be shot.

They are basically saying "I screwed this other person that meant absolutely nothing to me just to either spite you or because I was horny and what we had was so meaningless I was willing to do this without a second thought."

If you are going to screw around on someone you are supposedly committed to, do it for love at least or break up first if you don't want the commitment.

I agree it sucks, but at 23, he's got his whole life ahead of him. Once she is out of the house, everything will be fine.

My advice: Go on an IMMEDIATE ****ing spree. <---- Best Advice - end thread.

 

[Justin-a-GTOSE [JU]]

My advice: Go on an IMMEDIATE ****ing spree. <---- Best Advice - end thread.

I'm not sure if you want him to get some rebound chicks or defecate all over town.

 

[hjeepxj [JU]]

Stuff in Garage, new locks on doors. Give her access to the garage but not the house. Take your stuff out of the garage and put it in the house.

I like the idea of putting the stuff in the garage. BRILLIANT, most of her sh!t is out of the house anyways, and in teh garage.

No talking dummy. We're going to walk away from this one.

Really, she was talking to me...I was just answering...

Now repeat after me...."The bond of trust has been broken and it will never be repaired. We're done and I'm moving on."

I've literally never done anything harder than that.

My point of the previous post was to illustrate that I was trying to keep things as civil as possible while still conveying I thought she was a total b!tch...it felt like I came off that way last night...

 

[hjeepxj [JU]]

she wanted to get in, get her chit and get out....following her around was fawking stupid.

Like I said, it was her asking teh questions, not me following her.

 

[Jeepnut28 [JU]]

Like I said, it was her asking teh questions, not me following her.

you came off as a whining sniveling turd that she knows she still has wrapped around her pinky finger.


do NOT talk to her anymore, dont answer her questions......you no longer have anything but a business relationship with her. nothing more. set appointments with her to get the rest of her chit out. plan a formal sit down to have her sign a quit claim deed so you can take to the bank and have the hosue refinanced.

that is all.

 

[FischInAJeep [JU]]

Like I said, it was her asking teh questions, not me following her.

What questions??


You DID make it sound like you were following HER, trying to talk.

 

[hjeepxj [JU]]

Not when she owns property with him...



Oh and when she said "he didn't mean anything"

When someone is cheating and says that to their SO, they should be shot.

They are basically saying "I screwed this other person that meant absolutely nothing to me just to either spite you or because I was horny and what we had was so meaningless I was willing to do this without a second thought."

If you are going to screw around on someone you are supposedly committed to, do it for love at least or break up first if you don't want the commitment.

Ok, IDK if this makes a difference, but for all I know, she did not start dating this other guy untill we were "broken up" @ that time, she was still moving out and we were going our seperate ways.

So basically, in the middle of this sentence of my first post:

"Girl leaves stuff @ shared house gets an apartment, tells peanut head she won't date anyone,"

I should have said that we were "broken up"...so she technically wasn't "cheating", but she still lied to me about it and used the house as storage (still) while dating teh new guy.

 

[Jeepnut28 [JU]]

Ok, IDK if this makes a difference, but for all I know, she did not start dating this other guy untill we were "broken up" @ that time, she was still moving out and we were going our seperate ways.

So basically, in the middle of this sentence of my first post:

"Girl leaves stuff @ shared house gets an apartment, tells peanut head she won't date anyone,"

I should have said that we were "broken up"...so she technically wasn't "cheating", but she still lied to me about it and used the house as storage (still) while dating teh new guy.

yes she was. she is lying to make you amicable to her raping you for half the equity in the house. he is the reason she left you.

people who are heavily invested in each other dont just "break up" and magically two weeks later just happen to find someone else to date.

you've probably been licking his jizz out her snatch for quite sometime and just didnt know it. stop being naive.

 

[grigsby [JU]]

well it's after lunch time.....did you buy new locks at lunch time?

 

[hjeepxj [JU]]

do NOT talk to her anymore, dont answer her questions......you no longer have anything but a business relationship with her. nothing more. set appointments with her to get the rest of her chit out. plan a formal sit down to have her sign a quit claim deed so you can take to the bank and have the hosue refinanced.

that is all.

That is the plan.

What questions??


You DID make it sound like you were following HER, trying to talk.

Well, she would ask a question like "what makes you feel like you have to be here when I am?" and in the middle of my sentence, she would go to another room to get stuff...

 

[FischInAJeep [JU]]

yes she was. she is lying to make you amicable to her raping you for half the equity in the house. he is the reason she left you.

people who are heavily invested in each other dont just "break up" and magically two weeks later just happen to find someone else to date.

you've probably been licking his jizz out her snatch for quite sometime and just didnt know it. stop being naive.

Unfortunately, ...dis is the blatant troof, regardless of what someone says to your face.

 

[Mr. BMXWheelieMan [JU]]

I should have said that we were "broken up"...so she technically wasn't "cheating", but she still lied to me about it and used the house as storage (still) while dating teh new guy.

Once she's kissed someone else you're done. Nothing else matters. You're done. I'd recommend creating a situation where the woman you marry kissed/blew/screwed NOBODY ELSE AFTER YOUR FIRST DATE.


Write that down.

 

[Bobkid [JU]]

Once she's kissed someone else you're done. Nothing else matters. You're done. I'd recommend creating a situation where the woman you marry kissed/blew/screwed NOBODY ELSE AFTER YOUR FIRST DATE.


Write that down.

Good thing that thumbrule doesn't work both ways, or I'd really be screwed.

 

[Brock [JU]]

Seriously, get her to sign the house in your name. Have the paperwork ready to sign when she gets there for the rest of her stuff. Have two copies ready so she can have one. Don't explain chit to her, don't ask her chit. If she wasn't cheating with homeboy, she was at least talking to him behind your back. Fawk that hoe; throw her in the gutter and go buy another. Then post her cell phone number here on JUOT so that your JUOT support group can have a frank and honest discussion with her.

 

[FischInAJeep [JU]]

Seriously, get her to sign the house in your name. Have the paperwork ready to sign when she gets there for the rest of her stuff. Have two copies ready so she can have one. Don't explain chit to her, don't ask her chit. If she wasn't cheating with homeboy, she was at least talking to him behind your back. Fawk that hoe; throw her in the gutter and go buy another. Then post her cell phone number here on JUOT so that your JUOT support group can have a frank and honest discussion with her.

Pay particularily close attention to the part in bold.

 

[Mr. BMXWheelieMan [JU]]

people who are heavily invested in each other dont just "break up" and magically two weeks later just happen to find someone else to date.

Dude there is more than likely some very unfortunate truth right here.


So we're moving on. No matter what is said in teh future, we're moving on.